Good Habits (how to build them)

The Behaviourist Theory of Learning focuses on how external actions—like praise, routines, and consequences—shape behaviour. It’s not about what’s going on inside the mind, but about what we do and how others respond.

Psychologist BF Skinner showed that repeated behaviours can be encouraged through positive reinforcement—rewards, recognition, or encouragement. A child completing a chore to earn screen time? That’s behaviourist theory.

Positive feedback given to someone practising and making progress in a particular skill is another example. That toddler trying out their first steps? Who hasn’t gushed and praised over those attempts?

Yes, behaviourist theory can be about negatives. But, if you’re shaping your child into a responsible person (who isn’t?), then positives work better. We all love a little praise, right?

So, how do we leverage this theory? Entire books have been written about it, which is way more than the scope of this 200-word post.

Briefly, it means setting clear expectations and giving consistent feedback. You, dear parent, need to decide on the type of person you want your child to become. Highlight effort and reward persistence. Over time, try to shift the reward from stickers or treats to intrinsic motivation—that inner satisfaction that comes from doing well.

Behaviourist Theory isn’t about control—it’s about creating patterns that help children feel successful, confident, and responsible for their own learning.